Comments on: Help For Addicted Families

By: Todd

Todd — Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:08:00 +0000

HI, My 30 yr old son lost his professional medical license for taking drugs from the hospital, stealing mine (RX), and getting his own from various clinics. He would crush and inject, despite knowing first hand the danger (aside from the drugs themselves), and damage to the heart, kidneys, liver from the binders and fillers. After a period of not being in my home, he returned, and is now dependent on methadone from a clinic. He is not displaying the behaviors he once did, and is no longer injecting, but he is abusing drugs like benadryl and others that do not show up in a drug test. He says no 12 step, he is not got a problem. BUT–until he regains his license and gets back to work supporting himself, he has a huge problem. I dont know what todo. Toss him out or let him stay. I do not think he will pursue his license regardless of being here or there. I have suggested he call the board, or ask a family friend who is an attorney mediate for him with the board, and he refuses. He says “Dont talk to me about that” So, what do to?

I am just heartbroken, my wife of 20 plus years left due to issues related to this and others, and I had an emotional affair with someone (absolutely no contact what so ever). She is engrossed in al anon and they are ruining my marriage. 7-10 meetings a week is way to much, not in any moderation, so she has all of these lonely miserable friends now and is no longer the loving friendly compassionate woman I know. She is selfish and hung up about herself only.

DO you have any suggestions Dr. Crabb where I can turn for help? I was addicted (I say that loosely–I would say I abused on occasion and used for emotional pain) prescription narcotics. I broke my back and have had several surgeries on it and now am stuck with unbearable pain. I take opiates daily but now am able (without any thought or effort) to take only what I am supposed to, no less, no more, and do not obscess about how many are left, when can I take more, or anything. I dont think about them. I went to treatment 4 plus yrs ago and basically in my opinion am cured. Its not an issue for me any longer. Of course to some, I am showing my addiction by saying that, but if I had stomach ulcers, did what I needed to for treatment and had no problems for several years I would say I was cured, so why cant that apply to this? THANK YOU>

By: Lbrown714

Lbrown714 — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 15:01:00 +0000

My 21 yr old daughter just got out of rehab(heroin user), my husband is a crack cocaine addict 4 years out of rehab and has had multiple relapses. My life is a living hell most of the time, full of worry and fear and sadness, there is no trust between me and my husband or between me and my daughter and it has effected my health physically and emotionally and some days i just want to disappear…I cannot seem to do anything for myself because all of my days are filled with helping them and worrying and fear…I know i should just move on but i love them both dearly…desperation…it is a killer….love hurts..:((

By: devastated mom

devastated mom — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 07:38:07 +0000

I just ran onto your website doing a google search on meth addiction and I have sat here in tears reading this website while trying to figure out what to do with my 29 year old son who is killing himself using meth. He lives up by his father in Northern Calif., but in his own place (for now anyhow, he just lost his job because he's always late for work). His father told me he looks like skin and bones and to look at him in his eyes he looks dead, empty, no one is there anymore. I am devastated. Five years ago, he was hooked on meth and I worked with him talking and begging him to stop. He finally did and was clean, looked healthy, got himself together and was headed in the right direction, or so I thought. When he was hooked before I thought he was bad but I think he's worse now. I fear he's going to die, I don't know what to do. I am sick to my stomach and I am so afraid he is going to die before I can find help for him.
I don't have any money to send him to a private rehab center, I was unemployed for almost 3 years in this recession and his father doesn't have money either. I don't know if there is any help out there but if anyone knows of something, I am begging you to let me know, I am desperate to find help for him.

By: drcrabb

drcrabb — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:29:57 +0000

Please seek help through a local RU chapter. Go to their website, http://www.reformu.com and click on find a chapter near you.

By: drcrabb

drcrabb — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:22:28 +0000

Most of the psychiatric medicines have powerful side effects. The best route for someone addicted to ritalin is to obviously first go through a supervised detox program and then obtain good godly, Biblically based counseling to find the root cause of their problem. Many if not most non-physical disorders have a spiritual issue at its core The last thing most people need is more psychiatric medicine. Please remember that what facilitated this person into getting in trouble in the first place was a psychiatric medicine.

By: Dr. George Crabb

Dr. George Crabb — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 06:02:10 +0000

@mary I will definitely cover that topic in coming weeks thanks for the input. Dr. Crabb

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 17:47:39 +0000

Dr Crabb, Have you ever studied or written about those that are addicted to online gaming such as a RPG ie World of Warcraft? Would be very interested in what you had to say on this issue.

By: Dr. George Crabb

Dr. George Crabb — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 18:12:37 +0000

Peggy, your situation is a very complex one and demands a well thought out answer. I would recommend my book, "The Scorn of Porn" available through the web store at reformu.com. This book gives a comprehensive look at the problem of pornography and the answer out of it. You certainly will be in my prayers that God will deliver you.